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Beany - Warning Signs Missed Almost Cost Her Life
The following story comes with trigger warnings due to both its content and graphic descriptions.
This is part one of a two-part story.
Beany Chalfant brought her story to me in an email. I knew she needed to tell her narrative to us.
By the time she reached 40, she had never been close to intimate partner violence. But all of that changed with one boyfriend. In the beginning, he seemed to bring everything she was missing, but before long, he was more than she could handle.
The story shows us, once more, that having no awareness of the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship makes it too easy to become swallowed alive by an abusive predator.
Beany reached the point where she found ways to live with the frequent emotional and violent behavior doled out by her boyfriend. In his twisted mind, he felt he could do anything he wanted. And when she tried to stop him, he resorted to threatening her life and the lives of her children.
How does anyone remain in a relationship this toxic for 10 years? Listen to the story and you will see.
This is Beany’s story.
Part 1
Part 2
The Red Flags We Ignore: Transforming Pain into Empowerment
In this episode, Hilary Phelps sits down with Beany to uncover her journey from a picture-perfect life to navigating the depths of profound loss, toxic relationships, and the complexities of trauma bonds. Beany opens up about losing a child, the allure of a new relationship, and the red flags she overlooked as abuse escalated, leading her into isolation. Together, they explore the turning points that led Beany to break free, the self-education and acceptance that became her lifeline, and the essential role of community support in her healing process. This powerful conversation dives into the importance of self-love, accountability, and reclaiming one’s life—offering guidance and inspiration to women facing similar journeys.
Terry & Trauma Bonding to a Manipulative Stalker | Coercive Control, Narcissistic Abuse
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Terry, and Terry was trauma bonded to a manipulative physical abuser. They say it takes an average of 7 times to leave your abuser, but for Terry is was much higher. To quote Terry "It's not that I didn't want to break away from my abuser, it was just, I didn't know how to." However, Terry eventually did go no contact, and then took her power back in a very big way.
It's a story of isolation, feeling stuck, threats, stalking, trauma bonds, triangulation, physical abuse, addiction, infidelity, putdowns, humiliation, financial abuse, intimidation, minimization, denial, gaslighting, protection orders, love bombing, and exerting your power.
Beany Chalfant, Escaping an Abusive Relationship
Beany Chalfant is a teacher, mom, and coach by profession and most recently a domestic violence survivor and advocate. She is bringing awareness and support to women who are in the thick of it as well as to those who are recovering from it. She tells her story of the decade she spent with an abusive narcissist and how she finally broke free.
S2E1: Escaping Abuse with Beany Chalfant
In this conversation, Beany Chalfant shares her experience of being in an abusive relationship with a narcissist. She discusses how she met her abuser and the rapid progression of the relationship. Beanie talks about the love bombing stage and how she fell for the narcissist's manipulative tactics. She also reveals the physical and sexual abuse she endured, as well as the stalking and threats she faced. Beanie emphasizes the importance of taking back her power and finding peace without needing to forgive her abuser. In this conversation, Beany shares her experience of surviving and healing from an abusive relationship. She discusses the importance of forgiveness and releasing negative energy, as well as the impact of sexual abuse. Beany also talks about her journey of leaving the abusive relationship, beating cancer, and finding love and happiness. She emphasizes the power of healing and the importance of supporting survivors of abuse.
Surviving a Black Belt (Surviving Ron Casper)
Beany shares her 10 year struggle with abuser "Ron Casper"